Thursday, March 2, 2017

The continuing saga of my (steadily declining?) health


According to the ear, nose, & throat guy, ultimately I have nasopharyngitis, which is inflammation of the mucous membranes in the areas that extend between the oral and nasal palate, as well as allergic rhinitis? Which is hay fever, which I knew because I’d be at death’s door in fall and spring in Chicago, though not so much here. I could be wrong on names, particularly the last one. Funny: he knew the Latin names of the conditions and other medical terms, but words like, “change,” or “cause” sometimes eluded him, lol. Oh, and other funny aside: no one else spoke English but another patient: the receptionist kept speaking to me in Korean, never even slowing down when it was clear I didn’t understand her. I was being tortured by breathing steam in and out when I heard the girl say, “Jennipaw? Did you understand what she asked you?” I first went Monday, then back today, Thursday, this time before work, and there she was again! She’s a college student who, like a few of my students, wants to be an announcer or news anchor.

This is all from my hacking cough which I thought was another cough that turned into a bad cold on top of it. The nasopharyngitis one makes you more susceptible to viruses, and while I FINALLY have my normal voice back, I’m still coughing violently when I occasionally cough, and still have infected mucous. So he upped the antibiotic, and added other things that I couldn’t tell you about when I take them because the pharmacist didn’t notice my lack of comprehension when it came to her steady stream of Korean either. So apparently according to the doctor, cold air is a problem, as well as pollution and the other allergy-causing stuff in the air, particularly now, so instead of wearing a 4M mask when the air quality is particularly shitty, he said I should wear them every day, as it’ll help protect against this. I also need to gargle (which he acted out sort of, twice). I’m also going to try to find a neti pot here in Korea—so far, pharmacists have none, and they’re pretty new here. All it’ll take is a better internet connection than I had at the cafĂ© I went to after the appointment to find it on there, I hope.

I’ve had no coffee all week because I’m sleeping ok and don’t want to risk any caffeine interfering (well, except the weaker black tea I make when I first get up). Tomorrow or Saturday I may have some because I don’t have to worry about getting up early.

Birthday was great fun, Koralia and her husband Simon marveled at the fact that I’m not British since I think like one (drink like one? Lol), named me an honorary Brit, and vowed to help me figure out how to get my visa there, even if it means marrying a cute rich guy, which she seems to think exist there.

Koralia and Simon likewise let me stay at their place AND stayed up with me before we turned in, keeping a steady supply of good 80s/90s music coming on so I’d get up and yell the lyrics. I had them play my standard “Love Me” by Elvis, but it has been a while so I didn’t do as good a job as I usually do.

Oh and 1 of classes, the biggest and most difficult, threw me a surprise part of sorts on Friday: they wrote all over the board, turned off the lights, and gathered around the door to yell various birthday wishes, from what I could understand, lol. I was given a lovely eraser, note, pen, several beads and pieces of candy. Then my little Phonics class read the birthday calendar in the hall, saw my birthday had been Friday, and on Tuesday they gave me a stuffed Daisy Duck doll (one of the girls had one & I of course got all excited because I LOVVVED Daisy when I was younger), plus this cute little wooden toy they had painted themselves, that uses a string tied to a ball below a paddle to make all their little heads go up & down like they’re eating—a bit like Hungry Hungry Hippos.




This is Aaron’s last week, I’m seeing him on Saturday, I hope, since I couldn’t last weekend due to busy weekend and my terrible illness. I’m still not recovered but am much better. Hopefully by Saturday will be even better off.

The only other news is that there has been serious drama at work. 2 teachers left, Sandra and Jessica, and were replaced with Marry and Yuna. Yuna was sexually harassing Dylan, but has since cut it out. Now the only real issue with her is that she always looks slightly inspired by Heath Ledger’s makeup application, as her lipstick is always on her lips and/or smeared on her face. The real issue has been Marry. The thing is, I feel for her, since my first time at a hagwon was hell, and being a Korean teacher at one is that much harder because of all they have to do. So I’m  not sure if she was just struggling under a new job/first time teaching or what, but she really resisted help, dug in her heels (I wouldn’t know ANNNNNYTHING about that), and has taken to being VERY rude and disrespectful to Sue, the owner.

One thing to remember/learn is that, thanks to Confucianism influence, age, seniority, and sex are the big markers for respect here. Korean has I just learned FOUR conjugations depending on your position relative to the person you’re speaking to, starting with when you speak to those lower than you, your peers, and TWO that demonstrate respect. Sue is not only the owner, so seniority, but the oldest person here, so she is owed every little bit of deference. Sue actually speaks to all the teachers in Korean with the 2nd highest respectful level, in short showing them loads of respect by not just speaking to them with the peers conjugations, but the one signifying respect. To use the one for lesser people is NOT considered rude, either, at all. So it’s kind of a big deal that Sue does that. Marry was lashing out when she felt she was getting picked on, and was using the lower form of conjugations to speak very rudely to Sue. The other night when I came to the teachers’ office after my last class, Sue was in there, speaking very calmly, Anna was trying to be conciliatory, and then the Korean teachers were shocked and very angry. They’ve said they’ve had issues with her doing that several times, and they have been truly shocked and extremely angered by how rude she is to everyone, especially Sue. I will never forget when Anna was telling me everything that had happened, and said that Marry is a cunt. Anna lived in Australia, where that term isn’t nearly so loaded as it is in the US, but she’s familiar with its meaning too. She said she never thought she’d ever have reason to use it that way, and has prayed every night to God to forgive her for her terrible language.

Marry keeps coming back, surprising us all that she would show up—we all know she’s leaving now, but it all just came to a head, so Sue is desperately trying to find a new teacher. Jessica, one who had left, may very well come back to help out until a replacement is found (she left because she’s working on getting to the US this spring).


Wednesday when we came in for the teachers’ meeting, Anna and Jennifer were outside, but Sue, her husband Mr. Choi (who is the nicest guy, to me at least, and when he found out my birthday was Friday he got me a supreme box of these traditional Korean cookies that are awesome, and the rest of the teachers a more generic version that was still eaten up. They were SO good, and great for bribing students. As are pokemon stickers), and Marry were in the office with the door closed, but everyone was yelling. There was another argument last night, another bit of stern speaking from Anna today, and then I came in from my 3rd evening class to find Marry is crying. Sue has been in and out, speaking to her very calmly and nicely, Anna too. No idea what happened, Dylan and I never know until someone fills us in, lol. So we’ll be getting a new teacher, but no idea when, and until then, apparently, there will be plenty of drama here. She breaks so many social norms here that Dylan seriously thinks she is North Korean. An interesting theory, and really could be a good explanation. I feel bad for everyone going through it. 

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